"...the shame that comes with our ancestry."

From Wikipedia:

"Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; withdrawal motivations; and feelings of distress, exposure, mistrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness."

Sorry, I don't feel shame because my ancestors immigrated from the British Isles. My British ancestors outlawed slavery in 1833. They also did many very bad things as occupiers during the period of the Empire, including owning slaves. And the history of slavery, Jim Crow, and the continued discrimination against Blacks and other POCs in the US is shameful, clearly. But my ancestors were coal miners and poor farmers and never owned slaves.

More importantly, the idea that only White people, and all White people, should feel shame for these past grievances is excessive and wrong-headed. Slavery, oppression, genocide, and racial/ethnic discrimination has a long history that is part of just about any ethnic group in the world. Throughout history victors from conflicts would take slaves. Hebrews were slaves, but they also had a long history of keeping slaves as well. African tribes held members of each others' tribes as slaves for thousands of years. The Mongols and the Huns kept slaves, as did the Vikings. Even Hawaiians kept slaves. China is currently imprisoning an entire ethnic group as virtual slaves. Is this history shameful? You can make the case. But the point is, shame is ubiquitous, it is not unique to White folks.

I have shame for a few things I have personally done in my life, including the few times when I let my prejudices rise to the level of racism. But I deal with that on my own, as my own personal issues to deal with. I do not feel shame for Thomas Jefferson. If you feel shame, great, you have made that decision for yourself. But don't tell me that I have to feel the same as you or I am not "woke" enough.