You have the right to call yourself whatever you want. But you do not have the right or the authority to demand that the English language be altered in order to satisfy your personal identity issue. And the way that the trans community automatically and consistently labels anyone who disagrees with their demands as "transphobe" makes your pleas less valid. Just because someone disagrees with you on some points does not mean they hate you or disrespect you. You should treat them with the same respect you demand for yourself.